Dealing with narcissistic family members during the holidays can be challenging, but it's definitely manageable with the right approach. It’s crucial to remember that you can maintain peace and set good boundaries, even in the midst of holiday chaos. By preparing effective responses to the unwanted comments from narcissists, you can stand your ground and reclaim your right to enjoy the holidays to the fullest. You’ve got this!
🎄10 Things to Expect Narcissistic Family Members to Say This Holiday
“You’re late again, I thought I raised you better”
“I don’t know why I bother giving you my recipes. You just do what you want anyway.”
“You mean I can’t correct your kids? I guess I’m just a bad grandfather.”
“Wow, I hope your kids don’t behave (act or dress) that way in public.”
“Sometimes I have to show my friends pictures of you to prove I have a son because you don’t call me anymore.”
“You never used to act this way when you were younger. What’s a matter with you?”
“I sacrificed everything for you and this is the gift you gave me?”
“What have you done for me lately?”
“Your father always has a habit of ruining Christmas.”
“Why do you have to leave so early?”
⚡10 Boundary Responses You Can Say to Narcissistic Family Members
That’s interesting, I never know how much you cared about my time management.
“Thanks for the recipes. Without you my cooking would never be the same.”
“No, you can’t correct my kids. Grandfathers do just fine on their own”
“You know our kids are productive members of society, I’m so glad you can learn from them.”
“Hey, thanks for sharing our pictures, it feels good to have you think of me.”
“You’re right, I don’t act the way anymore, too bad you can't say that about others.”
“I understand you don’t like your gift; it’s ok, you can always return it.”
“What do you want me to do for you that I might have missed? How can I do it better?”
“I disagree, no one has to ruin Christmas for you, unless you do it yourself.” However, if this is a problem, we can always change plans.”
“Hey, thanks for your concern. We can always calendar another time to get together.”
While none of these responses are flawless, they are designed to assist you in moments when words may escape you. It’s crucial to maintain a calm demeanor when expressing yourself, as appearing easily angered can lead to unnecessary arguments that you want to avoid.
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