We’ve all been there—holding out hope that someone will finally change. Maybe this time, things will be different. Maybe this time, they’ll see the pain they’ve caused.
But here’s the hard truth: when someone remains unchanged, their behavior doesn’t change either. And when we grant repeat offenders access to our lives, we’re often inviting the same har
“I don't believe that time does heal wounds. Because what if you bury them? I believe that healing comes from the source of the pain as you embrace it and continue working out the hurt and the trauma. That takes time, and that is healing.” - Branon Dempsey
Change requires more than words. It demands action. It requires ownership of behavior, genuine remorse, and a commitment to do better. Without those things, there’s no real transformation—just a cycle that keeps spinning, pulling you under.
Time itself doesn’t heal wounds. Healing comes when the source of the pain is embraced, and continues the process of working out the hurt and trauma. If the cause of your hurt remains unchanged, those wounds can’t fully close. They’ll keep reopening, leaving you stuck in the same patterns of pain and disappointment.
This is why boundaries are sacred. They are not about punishment; they’re about protection. Boundaries say, “I choose to value my well-being over someone else’s comfort.” They say, “I will no longer sacrifice my peace for your unchecked behavior.”
Abusers and narcissists thrive on control. They minimize, manipulate, and twist reality to keep you questioning yourself. It’s not love—it’s power. And when you take that power back by refusing access, you disrupt their game.
You deserve more than survival. You deserve relationships rooted in respect, trust, and growth. Relationships where accountability is the foundation and change is evident—not promised.
Choosing yourself isn’t selfish. It’s necessary. It’s how we create lives that honor the worth we carry and the love we deserve.
Be Reminded
You are not obligated to keep someone in your life who refuses to grow. Protect your peace. Guard your heart. And know that real love never asks you to sacrifice your dignity.
You Can Change
You can’t control whether others change. They may hold onto their patterns, their excuses, their cycles. But you? You are not bound to their choices. You can change. You can heal.
You can grow beyond the pain they caused. Change starts with recognizing your power.
The power to set boundaries.
The power to choose peace over chaos.
The power to rewrite your story.
You don’t have to wait for them to change to move forward. You don’t have to stay stuck in their dysfunction. Your healing isn’t dependent on their behavior—it’s dependent on your courage. Change is hard, but staying stuck is harder.
Choose yourself. And trust that your transformation will lead you to the life you deserve.
Your story truly matters
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